What is it like to celebrate your birthday on your own?Continue reading “Celebration in the Age of COVID and Loneliness”
Simon is on a panel this week for the inaugural APSCo Conference to discuss how diversity and inclusion is closing the talent gap, and the opportunities in untapped talent pools from diverse workforces across mature aged workers, indigenous peoples, people with disability, and women in tech. It’s an interesting and timely topic.
Just this week on Q&A there was discussion about the Federal Budget and the initiatives for women. There was a particularly heart-wrenching question from an audience member, a woman in her 50s, who had experienced divorce, poverty, unemployment and homelessness (in that order).
And it’s not the first time the government has been criticized for a budget that largely ignores women’s issues. 2020 was practically a repeat, with stories like this one from the Guardian again sharing the plight of older women sliding into poverty, languishing on Centrelink for the years prior to being able to access the pension, being required to undertake compulsory volunteering and suffering poor health with little ability to make significant change in their lives.
At the same time, women in mid-life are demanding to be heard and seen. Take a quick look at Twitter or Instagram and you will see us, advocating for more information about menopause, talking about sex and sexuality, and raising awareness of the double whammy of ageism and sexism (hit me up if you want suggestions on who to follow).
Today I came across an interview with Bonnie Marcus, the author of “Not Done Yet!: How Women over 50 Regain Their Confidence and Claim Workplace Power”. And it initially made me irritated.
The advice to women was pretty much along the lines of ‘be more confident’, ‘value yourself’, ‘talk more about your successes’ and ‘know your value proposition’. Now, I haven’t read the book, just the interview. So I admit that sometimes these things can take authors out of context. But it seems to me that this squarely puts the responsibility for tackling structural ageism, and gendered ageism back on the people who are being directly affected by it. And that’s not only unfair but also an impossible ask. It doesn’t matter how confident I am of my value if I can’t even get an interview because of my age. Or if ageist stereotypes hinder my progression, or if my industry doesn’t value people over 45.
A great first step for workplaces is to widen our idea of diversity to include age-diversity. Intergenerational workplaces naturally challenge ageism. Start thinking about your hiring (and firing) practices – are you bringing on people from a range of backgrounds, abilities and ages? Are your practices inherently biased? What could you do differently?
Don’t get me wrong, the book’s advice wasn’t really all bad. It is good to know your own value and not internalise ageist tropes that define anyone older as unproductive, expensive, hard to train and tech-challenged. It is worthwhile maximising your chances in a competitive work environment. Being on the receiving end of ageism can be demoralising and a huge blow to your confidence. And it’s true that thinking negatively about yourself can affect your longterm health and of course, how you feel about yourself in the workplace and subsequently, how others see you too.
But it still irks me that confidence is marketed to mid-life women as the way to tackle built-in ageism and sexism. Especially when we’re likely to be the ones who are supporting and nurturing our children, their children, our parents and our partners, this advice just rubs me the wrong way. Women are much more likely to downplay their skills and abilities. So perhaps the advice should be to just resist the urge to downplay and cultivate the ability to present yourself as totally awesome!
If this topic is of interest, Simon and the panel will explore this and more at the conference. Check it out.
5 years ago, I wrote this post on Facebook: “Happy International Women’s Day! To all the amazing women I know, from the first women in my life, my incredible and inspiring mother and my talented, gutsy, brilliant sister; to all the women I call friend – there are so many – you inspire me daily. But this world is still not the one I aspired for when I was 16 and had only just realised that I might be at a disadvantage because I was a woman. It had never occurred to me before then!
30+ years on and it feels like not enough has changed. My challenge today to myself, and to my friends and family, men and women alike, because this is not a unilateral cause: What are you going to do to make change happen?? Let’s make action and intention collide.
I’ve often thought about how so many of the words we use around ageing are negative (‘over the hill’, ‘the elderly’, ‘old biddy’) or how often judgemental terms creep in too. I’m thinking about terms like ‘positive ageing’, ‘ageing better’, ‘successful ageing’. And of course, while I support being positive about ageing, who gets to define what is ‘better’ or ‘successful’?
Maybe it’s COVID-19 and the associated disruptions. Maybe it’s being 53 and going through perimenopause. Or maybe I am completely sick and tired of seeing so much ageism (and racism and ableism and sexism) in a world where we should really know better by now. I despair that I will see out my life and things won’t have changed much at all, despite all the hard work of the many activists and advocates working to make change.Continue reading “Just so over it!”
Super excited to share the very first episode of WOW Bites featuring yours truly among some wonderful and inspiring company!
For those who don’t know about WOW Australia, you’r in for a treat. WOW, which stands for Women of the World, is an international event/project/creation/global force that brings together women from all walks of life to talk about everything and anything to do with women. It’s creative, imaginative and challenging. And so far 2 million women worldwide have taken part in gatherings in 30 countries on 5 continents.Continue reading “Talking about women and ageing on WOW Bites!”
As a young woman, I never dreamed that ageism would be something that would affect me in my lifetime. I never imagined it affecting my sister, or my parents or even my grandparents. It could be that I lacked imagination. Or maybe I was idealistic (my mother often said I was). Or that I had a view of the world that was coloured by never having experienced significant discrimination, or at least, never having felt unable to counter discrimination with the obvious logic of my words and my unfailing passion.
Well, let’s take a quick look at some statistics: older women make up a significant chunk of all older people. A higher proportion of women are aged 65 and over than men. Older women are almost twice as likely to live by themselves in older age as well and they are also more likely to need help with activities such as mobility, property maintenance and household chores(Source(s): ABS Survey of Disability, Ageing and Carers: Summary of Findings 2018).